Do you spend a lot of time in front of the mirror, on the scale or in your closet? Do you evaluate yourself based on a number, the way you look or the approval you gain from others?
Where does our worth come from? What is our metric of feeling enough? And from this metric, what does it teach our children? We may not realize it, but our children are watching, and they pick up on how we treat ourselves, talk to ourselves, and allocate worth to ourselves.
How do you step into your own worth? Worth comes from the inside; we are all worthy just by being born. Look in the mirror less, give less power to the scale and look within. When you do, you will see a worthy heart and mind.
Bring gratitude into your daily activities. Focus your energy on characteristics, values and feelings. See your worth in the little things and be sure to mentally take note of them or physically write them down.
When you question your worth, try to shift your thought process. Find what makes you feel good about yourself on the inside and nurture it. Start each day by telling yourself one good thing about who you are rather than what you are, externally. Claim your worth— state it, take pride in it, and share it with others.
What is unique about you? Bring attention to it and connect with it. Don’t expect the world, the mirror, your clothing or the scale to validate you. We must learn to do this for ourselves. The world is our mirror and reflects back to us the energy we put out. If you want the world to treat you as worthy, you must believe in your own worth.
Surround yourself with people who do not feed into your insecurities, but are instead honoring their own worth, uniqueness, and yours. Maya Angelou says, “words are things, I’m convinced. You must be careful about the words you use or the words you allow to be used in your house.” What kind of words regarding worth do you allow in your own internal dialogue and in conversation with others?
Be gentle with yourself. And remember, YOU ARE WORTHY. YOU ARE VALUABLE. YOU ARE ENOUGH. The only person who needs to believe it is you.