Self-efficacy is an important trait for children to develop, starting at a very young age. Self-efficacy is defined as the belief in oneself, that one can independently complete tasks successfully and with confidence. In addition to self-efficacy, self-sufficiency is another key developmental trait. Self-efficacy involves having the ability to take care of one’s own needs…
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The emotional and mental umbilical cord is very challenging to cut, even when we are determined to do so. For many of us, there is a sense that we must trust that these relationships are there to serve us all through life. This often lends itself to approval-seeking behaviors, even in adulthood. I used to…
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Parents often ask me why their child isn’t responding to their requests in the way that they want or expect them to. It is moments like these that we have to stop and introspect, examining our own expectations and whether they are even feasible. At times we think we can control all of the things…
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Our children feed off the energy, tone, and mood that we exude. The way we show up can make a huge difference in the behaviors and interactions that we have with our children from both vantage points. Our ability to successfully interact with others requires us to look inward. It is extremely hard to hide…
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Mindset plays a huge role in the parent-child relationship. Parenting is hard; as such, our mindset can make it even harder. Children are always watching us. We serve as models for them as they learn to navigate this world. Think about how you show up and what attributes you embody that your children learn from…
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Do you spend a lot of time in front of the mirror, on the scale or in your closet? Do you evaluate yourself based on a number, the way you look or the approval you gain from others? Where does our worth come from? What is our metric of feeling enough? And from this metric,…
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At some point in our lives as parents, our children will lie to us about something. Why do they do this? I found myself pondering this when my kids were entering the teenage years. As a parent coach, I have found that numerous parents I work with are also asking themselves this question. Over the…
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Have you ever experienced an ongoing question from a child that just drives you crazy? They asked, you answered, but the begging and pleading continued? My kids used to ask me questions about various things over and over again, trying desperately, but not knowingly, to wear me down. Child – “Mom, can I have another…
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When my kids were little, I remember thinking of them from an adult perspective. You might be wondering what I mean… As I watched my kids grow and develop, I can remember the feeling of expectation as an adult looking after and raising my children. I never looked back. I never reflected on the fact…
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We are constantly bombarded with images, songs, and messages of the importance of exuding confidence in our society. While these messages are about many different topics, such as our careers, our relationships, our partner, through various forms of media, it is rarely portrayed in terms of parenting. However, parenting with confidence is key. Parenting with…
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