One of the important lessons that I have learned as a parent is that we must first parent ourselves ~ our inner child.
Our inner child calls to us often. Our inner child shows us where we need to bring our attention. This inner child typically is triggered by something that is said or done by the child in front of us, the one we are raising and guiding. But this is the way to see our inner child clearly, through reactivity and tantrums. Ultimately, it may demonstrate to our adult self that something needs attention.
Many of us were not supported or raised in a way that served our need, emotions and spirit. That is not to say that our parents did anything wrong; rather, it simply means that our parents did the best they could with the way things were and what they knew at that time.
We know more now. We know that we need to raise the children in front of us in a conscious way, understanding who they are and what they specifically need in order to thrive in their own way. Seeing each unique child clearly and acknowledging what speaks to that child helps us parent them in a way that allows them to connect with themselves, find their inner voice and grow into the young adults they were meant to be. Parenting isn’t about conditioning and molding the child. It is about finding the spirit of the child and helping that beautiful spirit shine bright. They are not an extension of us.
However, we also know that we need to reparent the child within us that might have missed out on any number of things. This child will call out and let us know where the pain is great, when the overwhelm is present and which wounds are ignited. We must listen and hear the voice of our inner child. Only then can we, the adult self, give this inner child what he or she needs and perhaps never received. No one else can reparent (or will reparent) this child that lives within us.
Please reach out to me for support. As a worldwide coach and conscious educator, it would be an honor to work with you and help you connect with as well as heal the child within.
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