Our children need a secure place to share what they are feeling, experiencing and thinking, especially now!
What does that look like for you and your family? How are you deepening connections with your children, in a safe space filled with compassion and openness?
In order to ensure this space exists, we as parents need to check in with ourselves first. Some key ingredients to doing this include:
● connecting with yourself ● knowing what your triggers and pain points are ● being able to bring healing to these areas inside of you
Then, you are available to be present with and for your children.
To actually be present does not mean that you need to be constantly with your children in the physical sense. What it does mean is that you are with your children in a mindful way — all distractions are removed, you aren’t multitasking, and you are offering quality time and attention to the child when they are in front of you. This is true presence.
Connection begins with being present and then, of course, there are many more pieces to the art of deepening our relationship.
The next piece is to listen to hear, not to respond to our children. Try to focus on what they are sharing with you and what it means to them, not to you. This is how we get to know our children better and understand more about them and what brings them joy. For example, they might share music they enjoy. You may not like it at all, but it is a huge opportunity to understand why they like this particular music and what it means to them.
As we continue to learn about our children in this connected and conscious way, remember that silence is golden. We don’t always need to have an answer or get the last word in. We can truly just listen and appreciate what is being shared with us.
Sit with things that might make you uncomfortable. Bringing judgment or a snap response to something your child shares or does can actually create disconnection. When you give yourself the opportunity to think through things, you might see a different way to respond. These interactions are opportunities to teach and empower our children, as well as model for them — all part of creating deeper connections.
What does your relationship look like right now? How can you strengthen it as you navigate this unprecedented time we are all in worldwide?
Take advantage of my special summer offer on my course called: Transcending Our Triggers, Finding Our Rhythm. We all have triggers and when we are more aware and conscious of them, we are able to bring more peace and harmony to ourselves and our families.
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