At every age and stage of our child’s development, the parent-child relationship is so important. It can be cultivated and reinforced daily. We are here as our child’s guides to teach them, share wisdom with them, and nurture their physical, emotional, and social development.
Children learn about the world around them first with the parent-child relationship. They look to us to learn about the outside world. The more we are aware of who our children are and what they might need, the better we are able to create a positive, supportive, and meaningful relationship.
Here are a few tips to support you in creating meaningful and fulfilling relationships with your child(ren):
* Tune into the present moment with your child. Don’t live in the past; focus on what is happening in the present.
* Be accepting of your child and who they are, without judgment. Perhaps they don’t play the game the same way you do, stack the blocks the way you do, or clean the dishes your way. So long as they do it in a way that works, why change it?
* Be your child’s cheerleader. The more we encourage our children in activities and interests that they have, the more we allow the child to grow up as their authentic selves.
* Listen to what your child shares and validate their thoughts and feelings. We all want to feel seen, heard, and valued. Pay attention and listen to hear what your child(ren) has to say, with intention.
* Focus on what your child is communicating through their behavior too. Keep in mind that behavior is a form of communication and often can help us to learn about our child’s experience in a time when they are not able to communicate verbally. Take a moment to consider what is hiding beneath the behavior.
* Spend time with your child doing what your child likes to do, in their world, not yours. Engage with what they enjoy and be part of it by asking curious questions and trying to understand why they enjoy what they enjoy. Be present and non-distracted. It is truly connecting for both of you.
* Keep in mind that all relationships take work. Connecting with our children is a lifelong process that we put energy into just like any other relationship in our life.
* Be a model for your child(ren) by being an example for them on a daily basis, demonstrating honesty, openness and respect.
Remember, every moment in every day is new. If the last moment was not what you hoped for, create something new in the next moment. If you have any questions or need support, reach out to me at sue@suedecaro.com.
